It's not What we do but How we do it...

It's not so much the What of things
which causes so much pain,
but How the What is carried out,
that makes us feel betrayed.
Sometimes there must be suffering,
but grace will ease that sore,
and courtesy can act as salve
while love, will  peace restore.
It's what we do, not what we say,
that brings it all to birth,
and caring and compassion,
will heal whatever hurts.
There is no What which cannot be,
made easier to bear,
if How we do what must be done,
is sourced in deepest care.